Finding a Safe Place to Go
One option to consider for a safe place to go when you leave the relationship is to stay with a trusted friend or relative until you can find a new place of your own. This is usually a good option when the abuser is not aware of the location of the friend or relative’s house. If you choose to stay with a friend or relative, you should make sure that the home is secure (all the doors and windows have working locks, etc.) so that you and your friend or relative are safe.
A caution - If you decide to go live with a friend or relative, make sure you do not leave an address book or correspondence behind that might help the abuser to track you down. As you think about someone with whom to take refuge, keep in mind that the Internet offers a number of ways in which an abuser can find an address if they have minimal information. If you have a cell phone or car it is possible that the abuser can track you through a GPS placed on your phone or car.
If you don’t have a friend or relative that you can stay with while you find a new place of your own, consider locating a domestic violence shelter in your community. Shelters are generally very secure and are usually in a confidential location, so that your abuser cannot find where you are staying. Most shelters offer counseling and some offer help with jobs and health care. Living in a home with others who have gone through similar situations may provide you with comfort and emotional support.
PLL's directory of Domestic Violence Shelters and Domestic Violence Services may help you find an organization in your county that can help.